With couples therapy, I use an attachment informed, Emotionally Focused (EFT) framework. It is a proven therapy process that identifies negative cycles and gets to the root of deeper emotions. The argument about smaller things can sometimes be about something deeper. This framework recognizes that we all have attachment needs and sometimes these times of disconnect result from a perceived threat to security, closeness and safety. As we identify these negative cycles, we create moments of attachment through moments of reflection; which act as stabilizers, strengthening the relationship bond. It is important that all partner’s can feel safe and authentically listened by the the other partner.